Whether you are a wife with children or without, it can be a challenging role to fill. This is especially true when you’re trying to be a godly wife and throw in the command to submit to your husband. Wifehood is a calling, and just like husbands, we are learning as we go. Over the last 10 years of marriage, I have picked up a few wifehood life hacks that are quite useful. I am happy to share them with you in hopes you will find them to be useful as well.
5 Simple Wifehood Life Hacks
1. Use Code Words
The first hack I am going to recommend is the use of code words with your husband. It might sound strange, but it will make sense in a minute. You know when you are frustrated with your husband, and you want to tell him about it immediately? Next time, use a code word instead. This really comes in handy when you are in public or in front of the children, if you have any. It is not healthy for your marriage to argue in public. Additionally, it can be detrimental to the family if you do it in the presence of your children.
Our Experience
When I use our code word, my husband understands that he has done something that either upset me or that I do not agree with and vice versa. The understanding is that we will talk about it privately later.
Before having a code word, we would sometimes express our displeasure openly. Our children would pick up on the fact that mommy and daddy weren’t happy with each other. Our sweet boys would try to step in and smooth things over. However, it was not their place or responsibility to do that. This does not mean that children should never see their parents have a difference of opinion. However, when emotions are high, the result may be an interaction that is not good for others to witness. Additionally, using a code word can keep you from sinning with your mouth. Here are a couple Bible verses about that:
- “For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile.” -1 Peter 3:10
- “If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man’s religion is vain.” -James 1:26
2. Take Pictures of Favorite Meals
Next on this list of wife hacks has to deal with food. I struggle every week trying to come up with meals that my family will enjoy. If you are also a wife who cooks dinner at home for the family, you probably understand the struggle. Now, I will say, I am very good at picking out tasty meals on Pinterest lol. However, some meals definitely stand out more than others for my husband (and the kids). So, what we started doing was taking pictures of the meals that were a huge hit! Going forward, whenever I ask my husband to help me put together the dinner meal for the week, he just scrolls through the pictures he took on his phone. Problem solved!
3. No Laundry Basket, No Wash
Chile, when it comes to the laundry, my husband used to put his dirty clothes everywhere but the laundry basket! Your husband too? OK good! Now, I don’t feel so alone lol. On laundry day, I used to find myself searching throughout the house for stray dirty clothes. I would even go through my husband’s side of the closet to do the sniff test and check shirt collars. In fact, I still have to do this for the three boys. (Note to self, do a better job of training the boys to put their dirty laundry in the basket!)
Needless to say, this got old real fast. So, I implemented a rule that whatever he wanted me to wash, should be in the laundry basket come wash day. Otherwise, he would be left with the option to wear dirty clothes or wash them himself. I certainly do not mind caring for my man, but I also don’t think it is too much to ask. Since implementing the rule, he has gotten way better and dropping his dirty clothes into the basket where they belong. And somehow, his closet looks neater too!
4. The Greatest of All Wifehood Life Hacks…DELEGATE
it is not uncommon for the household duties to fall squarely on the shoulders of the wife. Like I said earlier, I actually do not mind caring for my family in this way, but sometimes, I need help! While I do believe that women have super powers, I also know that we have limitations. When I have reached my limit, I ask my husband to step in, and he gladly does. For example, after I have been with the kids all day and cooked dinner, I need a moment of peace or time to get other work done. In those instances, my husband will take over the bedtime routine will all three boys so I can do what I need to do.
Typically, that’s how it works for us. When I need my husband to step in and do something I normally do, I just ask. However, if you wanted to formalize this wifehood life hack a bit more, you could simply assign duties to each of you. For example, maybe it’s his job to vacuum the house regularly and clean the bathrooms. Your assigned tasks might be to cook and do the laundry. You get the picture. Whatever works for you and your husband is great, but do not try to take it all on yourself sis! Ask for help, and delegate.
5. Tidy Up the Common Areas Nightly
This wifehood life hack mainly applies to the living room and kitchen areas. I hate waking up to a dirty kitchen or messy living room. Coming downstairs to a tidy and clean space always feels like a fresh start. It helps to get my day going in the right direction lol. In our house, we use the IKEA storage shelving units to hide away all the boys toys. It is so easy at night to toss everything into the little cubes, fold up the throw blankets, and place the sofa pillows back into position. Since I normally cook, my husband will handle the dish clean up and wipe down the kitchen countertops. Boom! Just like that, we are ready for a new day. I don’t let the other rooms bother me too much. I will get to them when I get to them.
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Peace and blessings Woman of God!
