Ephesians 5:22-24 gives Christian wives a clear outline for our role in a marriage. However, many women have a tough time with the instruction to “submit” to their husband. This instruction is especially hard to follow in a world that is constantly encouraging us to do the opposite. We rarely see examples of how to do this God’s way. I recently faced a situation that put my submission skills to the test. A big test!
The Big Submission Test
During the first half of 2022, my family and I moved from the U.S.A to Ethiopia, Africa. You can see our adventures on my YouTube channel here, if you’re interested. It was certainly a big move! I felt liberated and ready to take on any challenges on the road to success. I thought my husband and I were on the same page. Until…I noticed doubt began settling in his heart. He felt that going back to America would help us better position ourselves.
I did not want to hear it. I presented my argument for why we should stay. He listened politely, but I knew I had not changed his mind. Ultimately, we decided to leave. I had submitted my will to my husband’s, but in my heart, I resented him.
We returned to the U.S., my husband went back to work, and I stayed home with the kids. I spent most days mourning the loss of my dream life. How dramatic right? It wasn’t until an eye-opening conversation with another wife that my perspective changed. I started to see that I could still work towards my dream life in Ethiopia in other ways. I started this blog, for instance, and invested more time into my YouTube channel. We were even able to begin construction on our house in Ethiopia because we were back in the U.S! Now, I was fully submitted in spirit, body and heart.
Practical Submission Keys
- Your husband is your “head” and covering (Ephesians 5:23). If he is following the Lord, his decisions will always put you (and the children) above himself.
- God knows the desires of your heart. If you obey Him by submitting to your husband, God will ultimately grant those desires.
- Partial submission is not submission. If you hold on to resentment, you will introduce division and strife into your marriage and delay God’s will for your life.
- Trust in the Lord and let your husband lead. It is your husband’s duty to lead. If you let him do it, you will actually have less stress!
- Ask the Lord for help. Ask God to help you submit to your husband whenever you are struggling with it. He will help you.
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Blessings sis!
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